Years ago I read Danielle La Porte’s “Desire Map” the premise of which is to uncover your core desired feelings. I discovered that mine were “Divinely Feminine” and “Sensually Awakened”. On a daily basis I want to feel deeply connected to my feminine aspect and revel in all the sensual delights of being alive.
What does this mean?
It means that I take time each day to love myself in some way and that can look like different things on different days.
Some days I am loving my physical self with exercise, nourishing smoothies, bone broth, lots of water and body brushing. Other days I am nurturing my emotional self with journaling, meditation and self Reiki. Some days I’m all about caring for my spiritual aspect with meditation, self Reiki ( yup, comes under both emotional and spiritual) connecting with nature and prayer. And the days I love most of all are the ones where I incorporate all aspects of self love into one day long self love fest.
Now, all of that may sound self indulgent and you may think “I don’t have time for all that” but it doesn’t actually take all that long and aren’t you worth half an hour of your time?
I recently purchased a Yoni egg and have started using that as one of my daily practices and I absolutely love it. These are often referred to as Jade eggs but they also come in other crystal variations. I actually have two; one is jade and the other is Rose Quartz and this is the one that I am currently using daily.
Yoni eggs have been around for hundreds of years and were originally used by the concubines of the Chinese Emperors to keep their vagina’s in tip top health and flexibility. Here’s the thing, everyone thinks that they are all about “tightening” the pelvic floor or vagina but what they are for is far more complex than that.
By the way yoni is the Hindu word for vagina and means “sacred space” or “womb of creation”. Sounds much more reverent than “pussy” don’t you think?
Let’s talk for a moment about tightening the pelvic floor. We’ve all been lead to believe that tightness is everything. That having a tight vagina results in more epic orgasms,; for him and for her but this is not true. Just ask any women with vaginismus or vulvadynia both of these conditions are the result of an involuntary tightening of the vaginal muscles , resulting in lots of pain and discomfort and not a lot of sexual enjoyment (if any) at all. No, what we need is good muscle tone and the ability to isolate and flex the muscles contained within the vagina – now that is a whole different story of sexual pleasure.
Use of a yoni egg can :
- Increase blood flow to all the genital area
- Increase lubrication
- Help tone the pelvic floor
- Increase your flow of sex hormones
- Reduce incontinence
- Help you feel more grounded
- Connect you to the Divine Feminine
And using your egg internally is only part of the journey with your egg. I often have mine tucked in my bra and I sleep with it under my pillow. When you are working with any crystal, the more you hang out with it the more you tap into and attune to it’s healing vibrations and isn’t that what you really want when you are healing yourself?
I like to think of my yoni egg as acupressure for the vagina. You see we store so much tension, stress and old wounding in our sensitive genitals and by regularly using your egg you start to release and clear all of that from your body and that has to be the ultimate in self love.
But don’t just take my word for it. Have a listen to my podcast where I interview Gabrielle Eutreneur of Tao Motion.